(;GM[1]FF[4]CA[UTF-8]AP[CGoban:2]ST[2]
RU[Japanese]SZ[19]KM[0.50]
PW[Joffe]PB[Ph]C[This was a very slow game. Two hours. I usuallu can't think for that long. White is 4 kyu, I'm five.
Ok, let us begin.]
;B[pd]CR[pd]
;W[dp]CR[dp]
;B[dd]CR[dd]
;W[pp]CR[pp]
;B[qn]CR[qn]
;W[pk]CR[pk]
;B[pm]CR[pm]
;W[qf]CR[qf]
;B[qe]CR[qe]
;W[pf]CR[pf]
;B[nd]CR[nd]C[I hoped to force white to make a slow move.

The exchange of black R15 and white Q14 is totally bad.The exchanged does no use to defend black' territory, but let white gets thick in the center.For white ,he has too many kinds of invesion at the corner. This exchang  is only useful when white can not extend, remember it . ]
;W[cf]CR[cf]C[He decided to leave the group like that]
;B[fd]CR[fd]
;W[jk]CR[jk]
;B[qi]CR[qi]C[So I took away the base]
;W[oi]CR[oi]
;B[pj]CR[pj]
;W[qk]CR[qk]
(;B[ok]CR[ok]C[Maybe this was a mistake.

The first and the biggest mistake here.]
;W[ol]CR[ol]
;B[pl]CR[pl]
;W[oj]CR[oj]
;B[nk]CR[nk]
;W[qj]CR[qj]
;B[pi]CR[pi]
;W[ri]CR[ri]
;B[oh]CR[oh]
;W[ph]CR[ph]
;B[qh]CR[qh]
;W[rh]CR[rh]
;B[pg]CR[pg]C[White didn't force...]
(;W[nm]CR[nm]
(;B[qp]CR[qp]C[have to live

Too many ways to go out or live,need not any living move here.]
;W[qq]CR[qq]
;B[rq]CR[rq]
;W[rr]CR[rr]C[Just connecting seems to give white too nice wall

First, find out how many senty you have now,I can find more than 10 points, such as O8,N7,O6,P7,Q5,Q3,O5,P5,P4.......then organize all these senties to a good use.]
(;B[pq]CR[pq]C[Many ways here , you have to think about them.]
;W[qr]CR[qr]
;B[po]CR[po]
;W[op]CR[op]
(;B[nn]CR[nn]C[I decided to push through]
;W[nf]CR[nf]C[black good.]
;B[ni]CR[ni]C[I felt I had to spend a move defending here: left a nasty cutting point in bottom right, but couldn't fix it now...

Black gets very strong here, and white gets little points and no attacking target, black leads.]
;W[lc]CR[lc]
;B[jc]CR[jc]C[Pincer before defending...]
;W[oc]CR[oc]C[He started throwing stones around and got me confuced. I tried to stay calm, but maybe he still got too much.

When he can get points, and you have no way to stop him,then let him get it.Because he can get it ,and in return you get a senty. That is a balance.]
(;B[nc]CR[nc]
;W[qc]CR[qc]
;B[pc]CR[pc]
;W[re]CR[re]
;B[ld]CR[ld]
;W[hc]CR[hc]
;B[fb]CR[fb]
;W[he]CR[he]
;B[je]CR[je]
;W[kc]CR[kc]
(;B[kd]CR[kd]
;W[jb]CR[jb]
;B[kb]CR[kb]
;W[lb]CR[lb]
;B[ib]CR[ib]
;W[ka]CR[ka]
;B[ic]CR[ic]
;W[mb]CR[mb]
;B[nb]CR[nb]
;W[ma]CR[ma]C[He had two points in gote. But took my potential territory and left me with weaknesses.

I could't figure out a good next move.

White has no gains here.Black lost almost ten points here, but becomes very thick and gets a senty in return,black leads centainly.]
(;B[fg]CR[fg]C[What should I do on this board now? This move doesn't feel like it actually does anything, when I think of it now.]
;W[bd]CR[bd]
;B[cc]CR[cc]
;W[rp]CR[rp]
;B[qo]CR[qo]
;W[nq]CR[nq]
;B[mm]CR[mm]C[I had to defend my stones now or never.

Good move. surely it can be said as the best move now.]
;W[hg]CR[hg]
(;B[ck]CR[ck]C[Are there better options? I tried to look for some.

As I just said before.]
;W[ci]CR[ci]C[As expected.]
;B[cn]CR[cn]
;W[fp]CR[fp]C[white safe, and black safe.
But if you are strong in the center or you have many senty in the center, maybe the best way is not let any group no safe even your group is probably in danger, but it does not matter in deed.]
;B[cq]CR[cq]C[I was sure he didn't know how to handle this :) Thank you for the sequence.]
;W[cp]CR[cp]
(;B[dr]CR[dr]
;W[eq]CR[eq]
;B[er]CR[er]
;W[fr]CR[fr]
;B[gq]CR[gq]
;W[fq]CR[fq]
;B[bq]CR[bq]
;W[bp]CR[bp]
;B[br]CR[br]
;W[lp]CR[lp]
(;B[dg]CR[dg]
;W[cg]CR[cg]
;B[di]CR[di]
;W[dj]CR[dj]C[Unexpected... I wanted this wall. How to get it? Or is it good strategy at all?

It is really good enough for black.]
;B[cj]CR[cj]
;W[dh]CR[dh]
(;B[hi]CR[hi]C[This move wasn't a big success.

Surely as your chart before,that exchange is very very good.
It is the second big mistake.You only have to escape the key stone.]
;W[gh]CR[gh]
;B[fi]CR[fi]
;W[fh]CR[fh]
;B[ei]CR[ei]
;W[eh]CR[eh]C[No target now ,black have a very big lost.]
;B[fn]CR[fn]
;W[go]CR[go]C[If it is mine,...]
(;B[jp]CR[jp]
;W[ko]CR[ko]
;B[in]CR[in]C[Good shape.]
;W[jo]CR[jo]
(;B[io]CR[io]
;W[ip]CR[ip]
;B[hp]CR[hp]
;W[iq]CR[iq]
;B[gr]CR[gr]
;W[ho]CR[ho]
;B[fs]CR[fs]
;W[hq]CR[hq]
;B[gp]CR[gp]
;W[hr]CR[hr]
;B[gs]CR[gs]
;W[dn]CR[dn]
(;B[fo]CR[fo]
;W[cm]CR[cm]
;B[jq]CR[jq]TR[es]C[Mistake.. I forgot the cut point.]
;W[jr]CR[jr]
;B[ir]CR[ir]
;W[is]CR[is]
;B[es]CR[es]
;W[kq]CR[kq]
;B[bo]CR[bo]
;W[bn]CR[bn]
;B[gi]CR[gi]
;W[bc]CR[bc]
;B[km]CR[km]C[I really wanted the center...]
;W[fl]CR[fl]
;B[ek]CR[ek]
;W[dl]CR[dl]
(;B[hh]CR[hh]
;W[gg]CR[gg]
;B[el]CR[el]C[Here i lost the game?]
;W[dk]CR[dk]
;B[em]CR[em]
;W[kg]CR[kg]C[Can I still get the big center somehow? I couldn't get it in the game.

You lost almost 15 points on the left, now black has no chance.]
;B[ki]CR[ki]
;W[ji]CR[ji]
;B[jh]CR[jh]
;W[kh]CR[kh]
;B[ih]CR[ih]
;W[li]CR[li]
;B[kj]CR[kj]
;W[lj]CR[lj]
;B[kk]CR[kk]
;W[lk]CR[lk]
;B[ll]CR[ll]
;W[mg]CR[mg]
;B[ng]CR[ng]
;W[me]CR[me]
;B[of]CR[of]
;W[oe]CR[oe]
;B[ne]CR[ne]
;W[og]CR[og]C[I was very tired after two hours. Couldn't finish the game properly.]
;B[bi]CR[bi]
;W[ch]CR[ch]
;B[of]CR[of]
;W[jf]CR[jf]
;B[if]CR[if]
;W[og]CR[og]
;B[cl]CR[cl]
;W[dm]CR[dm]
;B[of]CR[of]
;W[jj]CR[jj]
;B[kl]CR[kl]
;W[og]CR[og]
;B[ia]CR[ia]
;W[ja]CR[ja]
;B[of]CR[of]
;W[ig]CR[ig]
;B[ie]CR[ie]
;W[og]CR[og]
;B[oq]CR[oq]
;W[nh]CR[nh]
;B[nj]CR[nj]
;W[md]CR[md]
;B[rd]CR[rd]
;W[qd]CR[qd]
;B[rc]CR[rc]
;W[pe]CR[pe]
;B[qb]CR[qb]
;W[od]CR[od]
;B[pb]CR[pb]
;W[ob]CR[ob]
;B[rg]CR[rg]
;W[qg]CR[qg]
;B[rf]CR[rf]
;W[qe]CR[qe]
;B[se]CR[se]TR[ob][oc][qc][od][qd][oe][pe][qe][re][pf][qf][qg]C[Tired mistake. I thought white was in atari :)

Even if he was, it wouldn't help me to get anything more here. ]
;W[rb]CR[rb]C[Time to resign. White won the game.

White played a very confusing game in the beginning. How should I react to that kinf of style? I guess I made it equally confusing and the game just became a mess. Shapes became ugly.

- Was there any secret sequences I should know from now on?

- What were the biggest strategic mistakes I did? How should I think in a situation like that?

The right sequences are :
1,make the opponent's shape bad;
2, make the oppenent's group weak;
3, attack to get points;
4, control the whole game.
It is not easy to capture a group, but it is more easy to get points by overawing.So in the most cases, you just need to cut and surely you will have more gains in the future. Not to capture from the beginning.
The easy sequence may be like this:
the first 100 moves----cut and cut and cut;
then try to capture a group or maybe you have won the game already.])
(;B[cl]CR[cl])
(;B[bi]CR[bi]
;W[ch]CR[ch]
;B[dk]CR[dk]
;W[el]CR[el]
;B[rd]CR[rd]
;W[qd]CR[qd]
;B[pe]CR[pe]
;W[rf]CR[rf]
;B[rc]CR[rc]
;W[oe]CR[oe]
;B[bb]CR[bb]C[White group has too many ways to make too eyes here.]))
(;B[dm]CR[dm]
;W[fo]CR[fo]
;B[en]CR[en]
;W[do]CR[do]
;B[hm]CR[hm]C[Right. The best way here.]))
(;B[ho]CR[ho]
;W[io]CR[io]
;B[gn]CR[gn]
;W[hp]CR[hp]
;B[hn]CR[hn]
;W[gp]CR[gp]
;B[gi]CR[gi]
;W[km]CR[km]C[Naah...]))
(;B[kp]CR[kp]
(;W[kq]CR[kq]
;B[jq]CR[jq])
(;W[ko]CR[ko]
;B[jo]CR[jo])))
(;B[ei]CR[ei]
;W[eh]CR[eh]
;B[fh]CR[fh]
;W[eg]CR[eg]
;B[ef]CR[ef]
;W[df]CR[df]
;B[ff]CR[ff]C[Must have been better...

It is already almost the best. If it is mine, I can be so happy about it. ]))
(;B[bh]CR[bh]
;W[bi]CR[bi]
;B[ce]CR[ce]C[Remember it?
There are 3 ways to attack.])
(;B[cg]CR[cg]
;W[ch]CR[ch]
;B[dg]CR[dg]
;W[bg]CR[bg]
;B[bf]CR[bf]
;W[be]CR[be]
;B[df]CR[df]
;W[ce]CR[ce]
;B[bh]CR[bh]
;W[af]CR[af]
;B[cj]CR[cj]
;W[bi]CR[bi]
;B[di]CR[di]))
(;B[bp]CR[bp]
(;W[dq]CR[dq]
;B[br]CR[br]
;W[cr]CR[cr]
;B[bq]CR[bq]
;W[iq]CR[iq]C[good for both.])
(;W[bo]CR[bo]
;B[bq]CR[bq]
;W[co]CR[co]
;B[er]CR[er]
;W[dn]CR[dn]
;B[ek]CR[ek]C[Another way, it can be accepted by both.])))
(;B[ch]CR[ch]C[How to next for white?
If white lives the two stones,then black will get very strong outside,and then can attack any other thin group or control the whole game.]
;W[bc]CR[bc]
(;B[cn]CR[cn]
(;W[cl]CR[cl]
;B[en]CR[en]
;W[fp]CR[fp]
;B[dk]CR[dk]
;W[ck]CR[ck]
;B[dj]CR[dj]
;W[dl]CR[dl]
;B[el]CR[el]
;W[cj]CR[cj]
;B[di]CR[di]
;W[ci]CR[ci]
;B[dh]CR[dh]
;W[bh]CR[bh]C[Seems too good to be true
centainly it a kind of exchange,and that I think for one way.Black leads surely.])
(;W[fp]CR[fp]
;B[bp]CR[bp]
;W[cq]CR[cq]
;B[ck]CR[ck]
;W[jq]CR[jq]
(;B[lq]CR[lq])
(;B[jo]CR[jo]
;W[lp]CR[lp]
;B[ip]CR[ip]
;W[iq]CR[iq]
;B[hp]CR[hp]
;W[hq]CR[hq]
;B[gp]CR[gp]
;W[gq]CR[gq]
;B[of]CR[of]
;W[oe]CR[oe]
;B[og]CR[og]
;W[pe]CR[pe]
;B[ne]CR[ne]
;W[od]CR[od]
;B[ob]CR[ob]
;W[qd]CR[qd]
;B[pb]CR[pb]
;W[qb]CR[qb]C[I wouldn't complain...])))
(;B[bb]CR[bb]C[For white, live or not?
Let black get strong outside or not?
If black has a strong wall,then....too many ways to attack and control and anything.])))
(;B[di]CR[di]
;W[ef]CR[ef]
;B[dg]CR[dg]
;W[df]CR[df]
;B[gh]CR[gh]
;W[gf]CR[gf]
;B[np]CR[np]
;W[oq]CR[oq]
;B[fp]CR[fp]C[too many way to control the whole game,and too many weak groups of white. 
1,when you get strong outside , you can control the situation.
2, and you have too many ways to attack and gets points back.]))
(;B[jd]CR[jd]
;W[kd]CR[kd]
;B[ke]CR[ke]
;W[md]CR[md]
;B[le]CR[le]
;W[mc]CR[mc]
;B[me]CR[me]
;W[nb]CR[nb]
;B[ob]CR[ob]C[connect this way, white has no way out.
Think about how to connect and there ars how many way to connect.]))
(;B[od]CR[od]
;W[nc]CR[nc]
;B[pc]CR[pc]
;W[md]CR[md]
;B[me]CR[me]
;W[le]CR[le]
;B[lf]CR[lf]
;W[ke]CR[ke]
;B[di]CR[di]C[Yeah, white gets points here. But you get senty,both have gains and this result can be accepted by both.]))
(;B[nl]CR[nl]
;W[om]CR[om]
;B[mm]CR[mm]C[not good.]))
(;B[mm]CR[mm]
;W[nn]CR[nn]
;B[po]CR[po]
;W[op]CR[op]
;B[oo]CR[oo]
;W[no]CR[no]
;B[nl]CR[nl]
;W[om]CR[om]
;B[pq]CR[pq]
;W[qr]CR[qr]
;B[np]CR[np]
;W[oq]CR[oq]
;B[nq]CR[nq]
;W[or]CR[or]
;B[lo]CR[lo]
;W[mn]CR[mn]
;B[lm]CR[lm]
;W[mp]CR[mp]
;B[mq]CR[mq]
;W[ln]CR[ln]
;B[kn]CR[kn]
;W[lp]CR[lp]
;B[ko]CR[ko]
;W[mo]CR[mo]
;B[on]CR[on]
;W[lq]CR[lq]
;B[kq]CR[kq]
;W[lr]CR[lr]
;B[km]CR[km]
;W[rp]CR[rp]
;B[qo]CR[qo]
;W[rm]CR[rm]
;B[di]CR[di]))
(;B[ni]CR[ni]C[black is too thick, and white is too thin,no way to capture any black stone.]))
(;W[qg]CR[qg]
;B[ph]CR[ph]))
(;B[oj]CR[oj]C[Cut. This is the end of game. It is not a problem of capture, it is a problem of shape,and white now is broken.
Shape first, then capture.]
;W[ok]CR[ok]
;B[ni]CR[ni]
;W[oh]CR[oh]
;B[nk]CR[nk]))
